Instead of thinking disapproval thoughts, judging the person or behavior as "bad", "less than", "lower", "immoral", "unworthy", "without value", "disgusting"; thinking I'm better and morally superior...
| Disgust mentally | Changing your mind |
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- Thoughts of disapproval
- Judgemental thoughts, judging someone or their behavior as "wrong", "immoral", "unworthy", "without value", "disgusting"
- Thoughts of being morally superior
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- IMAGINE UNDERSTANDING and empathy for the person you feel disgust or contempt for
- ACCEPT the other perso as just a human being and their behavior as caused
- BE HUMBLE, remember you are not perfect; remember your own mistakes and transgressions that made you feel shameful
- List the PROS and CONS of shaming and blaming the other person for their behavior or trying to make someone feel disgusting or ashamed
- Remember why you APPRECIATE, LIKE and LOVE this person; let empathy and compassion win out over resentment
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| Disgust physically | Changing physiology |
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- Tightening up your nose and upper lip, as if you are smelling something nasty
- Turning or pulling away, looking away from that which is making you disgusted
- Frowning, mean or unpleasant facial expression, furrowing the brows together
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| Acts of disgust | Changing behavior |
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- Pulling away, running from or avoiding that which is making you disgusted
- Expressing disgust or disapproval
- Criticizing, blaming, shaming
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- APPROACH what is making you disgusted, move closer, look at it
- TAKE in what is making you feel disgusted
- Express compassion and empathy or love and liking
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